As the years go by, more and more women are foregoing this attitude that it's important to be chaste about our bodies. We are being fed these feminist attitudes that emphasize this "Only god can judge me" perspective. We are constantly being told, that what we do with our bodies, is our business and it should not affect how men will treat us. I recently, read an article called "The Thing About Your Daughters Virginity..." published in Those People written by Ashley Simpo. In this article, she expressed a very similar ideology. Within her article, she spoke about her losing her virginity at 15 years old to her older boyfriend. She expressed her disappointment that our society makes girls feel embarrassed about having sex. She stressed her regret that she couldn't tell her mother. She even suggested that, her mother should have congratulated her for experiencing sex for the first time. Her ideology is that having sex for the first is a wonderful experience and a mother could guide her through this new exploration. According to her, a girl should never feel guilty about having sex. She mentions that we should teach girls that sex and love are two different entities and that we as women can have relations without being in love. She stated that, we fear to tell young girls that they have the right to do what they want with their bodies, because we fear that they will have sex. In my opinion, there were so many things wrong with the messages she is telling young girls. I don't know any mother who would congratulate their daughter for having sex, because more than likely her mother had told her not to do it in the first place. And in doing so, this girl has disrespected her mother. When your a teenager nothing is yours, not even your body. You do not have the right to "desecrate" it as she says. Your parents have a right to tell you not to put your body at risk for STD's and the depression of heartache. After all, your mothers protected you to the best of their abilities during childhood and have every right to continue doing so during your teenage years. Teen girls need to know that engaging in sexual activity is a big deal for a teenager and that sex has real consequences. We forget that many girls can be met with the agonizing pain of rejection, after giving their bodies to someone. Most women are lying to themselves saying they don't become attached with the men that they sleep with. Even women have cried on their pillow cases over the aftermath of what they thought was going to last forever. So why do feminist preach this crap to young girls? Teens girls are not emotionally mature to be having sex with immature boys. We need to stop trying to act so emotionally resilient. We don't need to keep up with the behavior of men. It's okay to be soft, caring and passionate.
Teens need to know that, the one they give their bodies to will last in their memory for a long time; so they should pick wisely. Teen girls should know that sex and love are indeed two different entities. But why would a woman be sharing her body with a man she didn't love? The best experiences are with someone who knows you. She believes by telling a girl not to test the waters we are allowing men to define and control our sexuality. On the contrary, we should care about who we give our bodies to. We are not the neighborhood bike everybody does not get a ride. And I'm so tired of woman easing their conscience by promoting their promiscuity as them being a feminist. There is no unapologetic slut who presents her carefree attitude about sex as being cool. There is nothing heroic in being promiscuous. And she is wrong sex does define you. Your sexual behavior tells a story behind your life. Most of the women who sleep around; have daddy issues, was molested and overall lack a sense of self-worth. They try to find warmth in the arms of strangers; in the guys that compliment them and give them the attention they desire. A lot of teen boys really are just looking for a good time and will say and do anything in order to have it. And young girls shouldn't be so eager to sleep around. She is correct in her belief we fear telling young girls that they can do as they please with their bodies because we fear that they will consider the possibility to have sex. By telling them it doesn't matter you downplay sex it becomes this minute thing like taking a shower. We are losing the value in sex it's no longer special, beautiful or a moment that lovers can connect. Not anymore, now sex is a thrill seeking one night stand from a stranger you met at the bar or something you do when you get drunk. Men and women are so disconnected now days. Some of them only want to be around each other unless they are partaking in it. What do teens need to know about virginity? Society is enticing you with sex everywhere you turn from commercials to school, friends etc, but be strong if you must, use protection and do not become loose with your body. Also, realize that most teen boys, like many men may not be using protection so your putting yourself at risk. There are hospital beds full of sick people wishing they could take back that moment of bliss. Don't follow the "modern women" of today that tell you one night stands are not a big deal and friends with benefits are the norm. We are headed towards a society that will tells us there are no rules. But just because their are no rules doesn't mean their aren't any consequences to our actions. Young girls, your body is sacred; not for everyone to enjoy. And you can't expect people to value what you don't value. The women you should look up to are not out having sex with strangers. They are starting businesses, feeding the poor and fighting for human rights. We shouldn't engage in sex because of an urge but with a person we truly connect with. I hope young girls will not find liberation in exploring their bodies, but rather exploring their potential. Most of all, virginity isn't everything but how you use your body is.
josiah
11/12/2015 06:02:08 pm
Love it! One hundred percent on point!!! Comments are closed.
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