Just when you think Jaden couldn't get anyone weirder--he does. Jaden Smith, is now the new face of womenswear for Louis Vuitton. Jaden has been wearing women's clothing for quite some time in hopes to "redefine masculinity" but who said that's what society needs? But anyway, the real problem is that, he stated previously that he wanted to change society's attitudes toward male masculinity. But changing men's attire won't improve the chaos that stems from masculinity. The real issue lies in the connection between masculinity and hyper-aggressive behavior, slut-shaming, and rape. Jaden wearing the clothes of a woman, is not benefiting the problems in the world. He is only going to influence young boys to wear dresses which is of little benefit unless he is trying to appeal to the LBGT community--but it will never help women. Whether Jaden is gay, a cross-dresser doesn't matter, but what does matter is that he is doing this in hopes of reshaping the mind of society for the better. What I have noticed is that a lot of gay men, cross dressers or not take part in misogyny. Many of them, will call a woman out her name, call her a slut and even hit her. We love to think that a man in a dress is softened, but they are not. So until Jaden is fighting against rape, and domestic abuse he can save his rhetoric about attempting to "redefine masculinity" for later, because none of this will improve our society. With all the problems being brought to light in the news, we need to face the real issues not try to solve them with frilly dresses. A lot of men think it's okay to make women their victims. Too many men find gratification in their display of male dominance. This is exhibited in their casual attitudes and ability to rape a defenseless woman and then blame her attire for his transgressions. Since masculinity is rooted in taking what is yours and seeing a woman as property, a man feels he can exert his sexual urge and thirst for power by forcing himself on a woman. Many men still abide by this idea that their most primal instinct is to knock a woman over her head and drag her back into his cave to have his way with her. If male masculinity isn't causing damage sexually, it is doing harm through physical abuse. Male masculinity allows a man to hit a woman when he gets mad or feels embarrassed. Since the male ego is so fragile due to the fact, a man loses his respect if he walks away from confrontation. So when a man has a girlfriend nagging him about his affairs or bringing up his lack of financial support, he feels he has the right to slap her. A man may not exhibit any physical violence but may display his insecurities and desire to conquer women with his words. I'm well versed in the vulgarity that comes out of a man's mouth when he is rejected on the street. They can go from calling a woman beautiful to calling her a b-word. Some cat-callers had such low self-esteem because of their need to regain their ego's that they resorted to killing women after they were turned down. Even strange women are property in some men's eyes. Masculinity tells a man he can do what he wants and never question himself. He wears his heart in his fist and his emotions lay unchecked. So Jaden needs to leave his reshaping the world speech for another occasion. Let's call it what it is cross dressing. When Jaden stands up and starts a campaign against domestic abuse then he can say he is reshaping masculinity. When he starts telling men to get anger management to treat their violent outburst, he can have my blessing. Indeed, masculinity needs to be redefined but not through clothes but rather the need to change male attitudes. Many find it too easy to hurt women in any form. The idea that masculinity involves enhancing the male ego by any means necessary and using their muscles on women to show how strong they are needs to go away. We also need to stop victim blaming teens and women who report rape. A man needs to learn his power does not lie between his legs. Sleeping with a large number of women does not make someone a man. So whether a man is wearing a dress or suit, he still needs to understand that a woman has a right to her body and to be respected. As the years go by, more and more women are foregoing this attitude that it's important to be chaste about our bodies. We are being fed these feminist attitudes that emphasize this "Only god can judge me" perspective. We are constantly being told, that what we do with our bodies, is our business and it should not affect how men will treat us. I recently, read an article called "The Thing About Your Daughters Virginity..." published in Those People written by Ashley Simpo. In this article, she expressed a very similar ideology. Within her article, she spoke about her losing her virginity at 15 years old to her older boyfriend. She expressed her disappointment that our society makes girls feel embarrassed about having sex. She stressed her regret that she couldn't tell her mother. She even suggested that, her mother should have congratulated her for experiencing sex for the first time. Her ideology is that having sex for the first is a wonderful experience and a mother could guide her through this new exploration. According to her, a girl should never feel guilty about having sex. She mentions that we should teach girls that sex and love are two different entities and that we as women can have relations without being in love. She stated that, we fear to tell young girls that they have the right to do what they want with their bodies, because we fear that they will have sex. In my opinion, there were so many things wrong with the messages she is telling young girls. I don't know any mother who would congratulate their daughter for having sex, because more than likely her mother had told her not to do it in the first place. And in doing so, this girl has disrespected her mother. When your a teenager nothing is yours, not even your body. You do not have the right to "desecrate" it as she says. Your parents have a right to tell you not to put your body at risk for STD's and the depression of heartache. After all, your mothers protected you to the best of their abilities during childhood and have every right to continue doing so during your teenage years. Teen girls need to know that engaging in sexual activity is a big deal for a teenager and that sex has real consequences. We forget that many girls can be met with the agonizing pain of rejection, after giving their bodies to someone. Most women are lying to themselves saying they don't become attached with the men that they sleep with. Even women have cried on their pillow cases over the aftermath of what they thought was going to last forever. So why do feminist preach this crap to young girls? Teens girls are not emotionally mature to be having sex with immature boys. We need to stop trying to act so emotionally resilient. We don't need to keep up with the behavior of men. It's okay to be soft, caring and passionate.
Teens need to know that, the one they give their bodies to will last in their memory for a long time; so they should pick wisely. Teen girls should know that sex and love are indeed two different entities. But why would a woman be sharing her body with a man she didn't love? The best experiences are with someone who knows you. She believes by telling a girl not to test the waters we are allowing men to define and control our sexuality. On the contrary, we should care about who we give our bodies to. We are not the neighborhood bike everybody does not get a ride. And I'm so tired of woman easing their conscience by promoting their promiscuity as them being a feminist. There is no unapologetic slut who presents her carefree attitude about sex as being cool. There is nothing heroic in being promiscuous. And she is wrong sex does define you. Your sexual behavior tells a story behind your life. Most of the women who sleep around; have daddy issues, was molested and overall lack a sense of self-worth. They try to find warmth in the arms of strangers; in the guys that compliment them and give them the attention they desire. A lot of teen boys really are just looking for a good time and will say and do anything in order to have it. And young girls shouldn't be so eager to sleep around. She is correct in her belief we fear telling young girls that they can do as they please with their bodies because we fear that they will consider the possibility to have sex. By telling them it doesn't matter you downplay sex it becomes this minute thing like taking a shower. We are losing the value in sex it's no longer special, beautiful or a moment that lovers can connect. Not anymore, now sex is a thrill seeking one night stand from a stranger you met at the bar or something you do when you get drunk. Men and women are so disconnected now days. Some of them only want to be around each other unless they are partaking in it. What do teens need to know about virginity? Society is enticing you with sex everywhere you turn from commercials to school, friends etc, but be strong if you must, use protection and do not become loose with your body. Also, realize that most teen boys, like many men may not be using protection so your putting yourself at risk. There are hospital beds full of sick people wishing they could take back that moment of bliss. Don't follow the "modern women" of today that tell you one night stands are not a big deal and friends with benefits are the norm. We are headed towards a society that will tells us there are no rules. But just because their are no rules doesn't mean their aren't any consequences to our actions. Young girls, your body is sacred; not for everyone to enjoy. And you can't expect people to value what you don't value. The women you should look up to are not out having sex with strangers. They are starting businesses, feeding the poor and fighting for human rights. We shouldn't engage in sex because of an urge but with a person we truly connect with. I hope young girls will not find liberation in exploring their bodies, but rather exploring their potential. Most of all, virginity isn't everything but how you use your body is. Amber Rose's Slut Walk has had many people talking about the ill's of slut shaming. Personally, I have different opinions about feminism and promiscuous behavior. I do not believe being hyper sexual makes someone a person to look up to or respect. The ideology that you should compete with the same sexual appetite of a man is flawed to say the least. We as woman should never try to compete with a man when it comes to sex. We as woman should respect our bodies and present ourselves in a sophisticated manner. A feminist would argue that your body has no price that your body isn't valued by how many sexual partners you have. I disagree, because no man wants a woman who's been with every man he knows. No son wants a mother who brings home different men all the time. This type of a woman is no role model for her daughter. Promiscuity makes a person vulnerable to STD's even with the use of condoms. American society is so over sexed they use it to sell burghers. We have had enough. What I did agree with Amber Rose is, is how easily and unfairly we deem a girl or woman a slut. We will hear of one incident that may or may not have happened and label a female promiscuous for life. She will be bullied, whispered about, while the man who was mentioned is giving a pat on the back. Amber Rose mentioned a game of Seven Minutes in Heaven that went awry and had her bullied and slut shamed in school for months after. Sadly, according to her ignorance of the male teen's demand to get on her knees costed her a ruined reputation. This I can sympathize with because being humiliated in school is the worst feeling because we have to go to school 5 days out of the week and no one wants to feel embarrased for these 5 days. We shouldn't have this extreme expectations for women while men have none. I think women should still act like ladies. Amber Rose's constant display of her butt and breast is not taking the word back or fighting slut shaming. She is simply displaying herself as something to be objectified and devalued. By advertising yourself like that you actually putting a price on yourself. Your making the statement your only worth being seen when your dressed sexy. Amber Rose seeks attention for her body not her mind. I don't think she should be the face of slut shaming because she is not a role model for young girls. I would never want my young female relatives dress or act like her. We need to send the message that a woman can have relations but never get judged for doing so with a few men but can't expect respect if they have no respect for themselves. |
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