Even as a 25 year old woman I have a hard time understanding male expectations. Particularly, what a man means when he says "Lets hang out." I also have a hard time deciphering if the guy who suggest hanging out is only seeking friendship. After all, some guys just want friendships...Right? I can never tell because the average adult male has his mind on getting in the sheets instead of getting inside a woman's heart. Let's be real. How many men see a woman and say "Wow, she would be a great friend?" It's safe to assume most men asking for your time is interested in you romantically. But if this is true what are they asking to do with you. I'm specifically referring to the invitation to come to his house. You know "chillin". I recently was asked to hang out with someone and I couldn't help but think hmmm. Was this guy asking me to come over for "fun time" or was he really asking to spend time? I have definitely seen social media statuses that suggest it's said to initiate having relations. But are we really at a time where a man and woman that are just getting to know each other only visit each other's home to sleep together? We can't spend time together actually watching Netflix or having good conversation about politics, books and our childhoods? When does a night cap mean a night over? I personally believe while going to a movie or a dance club can be fun it limits your ability to talk freely and discuss common interest. I believe being in a quiet home allows an environment to relax and be yourself. But when we live in a generation of one night stands it seems male expectations have changed. The dating rules have changed drastically from my parent's generation. Men use to take women on dates and expect to pay. Now men act as if they do pay for the date you owe them at the end of the night. And in a society where rape is still occurring women like myself have to decode male speech and suggestions. It seriously seems like you can never tell when a man is being genuine. What woman hasn't heard "I'm a good guy" from the absolute worst guy they have ever met in their life? I guess we just have to kiss frogs until that prince comes along and take a chance on someone. I would like your opinion. Leave a comment below.
Infini
11/7/2015 11:00:31 pm
This shit is depressing as fuck. Expectations only break your heart & rob you of your gratitude. Don't expect shit & don't succumb to others expectations! Learn how to communicate effectively & enjoy life!
Seemorebutts
11/8/2015 12:55:22 pm
I agree with the article. 11/9/2015 05:58:58 am
You took the thoughts right out of my head! I can only say preach sister! Real issues need real discussion like this! 11/10/2015 04:28:25 am
While I agree that as men, especially at a certain age, we struggle to communicate, ultimately females set the standard for expectations. Women have the power to decide what "Netflix and chill" actually means. Men are simply offering you opportunities to define the relationship because YOU have the power. While wanting stimulating convo from a guy who was really trying to sleep with you can make for an awkward night, it won't make for two of them. Once you set the standard, the guy falls in line or steps off, saving everyone involved time, energy and miscommunication. Comments are closed.
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