Amber Rose's Slut Walk has had many people talking about the ill's of slut shaming. Personally, I have different opinions about feminism and promiscuous behavior. I do not believe being hyper sexual makes someone a person to look up to or respect. The ideology that you should compete with the same sexual appetite of a man is flawed to say the least. We as woman should never try to compete with a man when it comes to sex. We as woman should respect our bodies and present ourselves in a sophisticated manner. A feminist would argue that your body has no price that your body isn't valued by how many sexual partners you have. I disagree, because no man wants a woman who's been with every man he knows. No son wants a mother who brings home different men all the time. This type of a woman is no role model for her daughter. Promiscuity makes a person vulnerable to STD's even with the use of condoms. American society is so over sexed they use it to sell burghers. We have had enough. What I did agree with Amber Rose is, is how easily and unfairly we deem a girl or woman a slut. We will hear of one incident that may or may not have happened and label a female promiscuous for life. She will be bullied, whispered about, while the man who was mentioned is giving a pat on the back. Amber Rose mentioned a game of Seven Minutes in Heaven that went awry and had her bullied and slut shamed in school for months after. Sadly, according to her ignorance of the male teen's demand to get on her knees costed her a ruined reputation. This I can sympathize with because being humiliated in school is the worst feeling because we have to go to school 5 days out of the week and no one wants to feel embarrased for these 5 days. We shouldn't have this extreme expectations for women while men have none. I think women should still act like ladies. Amber Rose's constant display of her butt and breast is not taking the word back or fighting slut shaming. She is simply displaying herself as something to be objectified and devalued. By advertising yourself like that you actually putting a price on yourself. Your making the statement your only worth being seen when your dressed sexy. Amber Rose seeks attention for her body not her mind. I don't think she should be the face of slut shaming because she is not a role model for young girls. I would never want my young female relatives dress or act like her. We need to send the message that a woman can have relations but never get judged for doing so with a few men but can't expect respect if they have no respect for themselves.
Raven-Symone has been saying some things that have had black people given her the side eye. Recently on the View she admitted that she wouldn't hire anyone with a ghetto name. The irony of this is Raven-Symone said this while wearing a bright red mohawk which many would argue looks ghetto. While we do not have control over our names, unless we legally change it we have control over our attire. Raven-Symone has lived such a privileged life she has become blind to the plight of people of color. What Raven doesn't realize is respectability politics is just another form of racism. I find it odd that Raven-Symone who is African American seems to understand nothing about racial discrimination. If you don't hire someone because their names sounds black your practicing discrimination. The person who bases someone's qualifications on a name with total disregard for their experience, education or work ethic is being very foolish. This employer may have very well been the best person for the job but lost out on a star employee. I think we should stop making assumptions about who black people are based upon some stereotypical image one might hold in our minds. For example; A person named Shanika may be a honor student, live in an affluent neighborhood and be more ambitious to someone named Ashley.
I have encountered many people with so called ghetto names who have more class than those with English names. Job discrimination is a real problem and it's heavily raced based along with discriminating against where one may live. I hope Raven-Symone uses her privilege as a rich black woman to educate herself about the fabric of society instead of upholding the part of society that deems stereotypes as truth and names a representation of one's character. We need to educate ourselves as people and start seeing people of color as people who don't have to have a name like Amanda or Heather to be labeled as intelligent or civilized. We shouldn't have to be assimilated or prove we are "not like the others". So what is in a name? A name is assigned to you at birth it does not define you. |
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